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Before we dive into today’s topic – Parenting perspectives, I want to make it clear that I’m not a parent (yet), and I’m definitely no psychologist. My aim for this series is not to criticize but to share my perspective as a single child of caring parents, navigating the maze of 21st-century adulthood. The series is based on my views of how we should avoid parenting the future generations. So, let’s jump in and talk about the ever-evolving world of parenting.

Unpacking Assumptions

Have you ever heard a parent claim, “I am your parent; I know what is right for you”? It’s a statement we’ve normalized, but let’s break it down logically. Yes, a parent has the best interests at heart, but asserting an omniscient grasp on the exact recipe for success is a monumental claim. Do they truly know how, when, and where every step should be taken?

The Coach Analogy

Consider parenting as coaching in the game of life. Coaches don’t play the game for the players; instead, they train, empower, and prepare them for the field. Similarly, shouldn’t parents equip their children with the skills to make decisions rather than dictating every move? It’s a thought-provoking parallel that challenges traditional notions.

The Overprotective Cycle

Reflecting on what I’ve observed, parents often start with the best intentions, showering their children with love and care. However, as the child grows, anxiety about the future sets in. This anxiety leads to overprotection, unintentional dependence, and ultimately disappointment when the child struggles with seemingly simple tasks. It’s a cycle that perpetuates itself.

The Root Cause?

Parents often forget that they may be the root cause of this cycle. While the world poses challenges, the key is to ensure children are self-sufficient, at least by their late teens. I’ve seen individuals in their early twenties struggle with basic tasks because they were never given the space to learn and navigate on their own.

Shifting Perspectives

A common solution I’ve heard is parents saying, “We’ll move with our child for studies or work.” But does this address the core issue? It seems like a repetition of past mistakes, preventing the child from becoming self-dependent. The question arises: How long can parents be there for their children? Teaching self-sufficiency might be the real solution.

Final Takes

In essence, knowing what’s best for your child involves fostering their ability to stay safe, not keeping them safe at all times. Teach essential life skills, then pamper to your heart’s content. This approach cultivates confident, self-sufficient adults who not only care for themselves but support each other’s growth. My sincere apologies if this post stirred some emotions, but sometimes, a bit of discomfort sparks the most meaningful discussions.

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